An Interesting Dating Question

 The following question was posed on Instagram, which I found to be thought provoking on another level.

If everything else is equal , who would you rather date?  

Julia has "zero achievements" and I took that to mean that she didn't even graduate high school.  She works at McDonald's but shows up every day with a cheerful disposition.  She is well liked by her co-workers and leaves a positive impression on her customers.  She was described as shy and submissive but peaceful and loving.

Janet is a Harvard graduate and a big shot in her office.  She earns well over $250K per year and had been successful in every endeavor.  She is arrogant and bossy and sometimes disliked by her peers.  She may be combative and overly critical.

While neither is an ideal match, if I had to choose one of those two, it's Julia all the way.  I didn't even give it a second thought.  Based on the comments that I read, it seems that upwards of 80 percent of men agreed with me.  For the record, no I don't believe women should be submissive BUT there should be give and take on both sides.

If the situation were reversed and the same question was posed to women, how would the vote play out?  I believe that the shy and submissive guy from McDonald's would be rejected most of the time.  The wealthy guy won't have any trouble in the dating market even if word gets out that he treats his women poorly.  It is sad but true.  

When I was in college, there was a super nice woman that worked as a cashier at the bookstore on campus.  I hadn't thought about her much in the last decade.  Hell, I don't even remember her name.  For some reason, she has been on my mind a lot over the past few days.  Why?  Perhaps, the question on IG made me think deeper than my initial answer.  

We first met when I paid for textbooks with a check.  I asked who to make it out to.  Even though I'm sure she was asked that question scores of times that day, she sweetly replied "Campus Shop, honey." She was about 2 decades older than I, so there was nothing flirtatious about this.  Just a sweet and friendly personality.  She left me with a warm and heartfelt smile, which I of course reciprocated.  

She always greeted me in a very friendly manner but I found it difficult to talk to her.  First, I was shy and second, the age difference was awkward.  It's more difficult for a 20 year old to be friends with a 40 year old than 30/50.  She was just as nice to other students too and I grew to greatly respect and admire her.  Regrettably, I never told her how I felt.  

Would I like to date a woman like that now that I am the same age as she was at the time?  Most definitely.  It would be a pleasure to be around that type of personality.  If I had a difficult day at work, that loving environment would be just what I need.  Once again, the only way that I would feel better about a chronic illness for so many years is if there is a woman out there that I would have overlooked if we met a decade ago.  Could I date a less educated woman?  Yes.  Not sure if I would have several years ago.