I'll start this off with some halfway good news. It appears that I am no longer intolerant to ADHS and am less dependent on Vitamin C. I was still weakened by Magnesium Malate but the ill-effects were not severe. I did another "sprint" this morning of an estimated 150 meters to 0.1 mile. 3 days ago, it took slightly more than 1:00 to finish it. Today, my time was down to 51 seconds. Bad news is that the hamstring pain is still there. Though I am improving, I likely need another week off. Even then, I will need to go very easy the first few days. Now, here it comes.
Nowadays, I rarely even interact with strangers who contact me on social media because I've had too many negative experiences. I made an exception last month. A woman liked and commented on a few of my pictures from Miami. I looked at her profile and saw that we share interests in both travel and fitness so I followed her back on Instagram.
After exchanging a few messages that seemed to be a screening process, she asked to chat on Whatsapp instead. That's normally a flag because her IG account won't last long. Indeed, her account was deleted or disabled just a few weeks later. For what? I don't know.
Her first message expressed interest in building a friendship on here. Good. Green flag. If she had said that she was madly in love with me already, 9 times out of 10, she or he is up to no good. In a couple weeks, they will be hit with a major emergency and an urgent need for cash. No close friends or family can help so they turn to someone with whom they recently began chatting. I know better than to fall for that trap. I will immediately block anyone who asks me for money or gift cards.
I guess I'm old school in that I am not real big on texting. I do like to get a good morning greeting and maybe a few others during the day but I'm not going to chit chat, especially when I am supposed to be working. I was asked about my beverages of choice when hanging out at the pool. I meant to reply but was in the middle of my month end reports and it slipped my mind until evening. I was called "rude and disrespectful". This was after just ONE missed reply. It happens. I apologized and pledged to do better in the future. Now, suppose that I didn't reply to news about a sick relative who is in the hospital, YES, that would be bad. My beverage of choice is hardly an urgent matter. If you really want to know, ask me again and I will answer if I am not in the middle of something important.
Despite the initial dust up, things seemed to be going pretty well over the next couple of weeks. We even discussed taking a trip together in the future. I did say that I would have to spend a day or two together before I commit to anything big like that. I said that I could possibly be in her area as early as next winter and suggested a meeting spot. I expected to receive her input but got no reply. I didn't flip out. We never spoke on the phone but I did send her a video greeting in which I used her name. I expected to get a video reply but I didn't. Again, I didn't flip out. The day before I left for California, she complained again that I wasn't engaging enough. I explained that I had to tie up a few loose ends before the trip and please don't be upset if I don't talk much during the trip. After all, I cannot text and surf or text and drive at the same time.
You can probably guess what happened next. I was called "extremely rude and disrespectful" for "selective replies.". Stupidly, I apologized again and told her to please understand that I had very little free time. It's impossible to text and surf. When she piled on after that, I decided that I'd had enough and abruptly blocked her. Good call. Sadly, that's been the usual pattern for me. Several other "relationships" have gone similar to what I just described. Again, she didn't exactly have a perfect record of responding to me but claimed that she did.
I don't have a lot of experience with women but I know enough to realize what it would be like to date someone like that. Her expectations would be totally unrealistic and would be blind to her own faults, which is a double whammy. I would have to walk on egg shells to avoid her wrath while having to tolerate the very things that she complains about when I do it. No Thanks. I discussed this with a few female coworkers and all of them were on my side. Perhaps my younger self would try to make it work by being a simp and always accepting the blame. Not so now. Perhaps I am simply not cut out for relationships and ought to fully embrace the single life
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